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Strategies for Humanist Living: Responses to Blessings and Prayers

by | May 9, 2018 | Humanist Living | 8 comments

Sharing a common approach to life, humanists face some common situations. In this series, we invite humanists to offer their suggestions for handling those situations.

Question:  What do you say when someone says, “bless you” or “have a blessed day”? How do you respond to “I’ll pray for you”?

Community Responses

“Thanks!”

-Jamie Nichols

To “I’ll pray for you,” I respond “thank you, I’m sure you are.” With “bless you,” this phrase in my opinion is harmless, so I simply say, “thanks.”

I just let it pass. At least they are not saying “kiss my behind.”

-Stan Bradley

Responding to “bless you,” you could say, “I don’t need to be blessed” if you wanted to be rude, or if someone says, “have a blessed day,” you could say, “you have a good day too.” You could also say, “I don’t believe in any religion, so I’m just going to say thank you.” If someone says, “I’ll pray for you, I might say ‘thank you,’ but I’m not religious.”

-Avery Winston

“Gesundheit!”

-John Sterling

To “bless you” or “have a blessed day,” I say nothing really. I interpret it as “have a nice day.” To “I’ll pray for you,” I say, “Thank you, I’ll think for you.”

-Jack

I usually just smile and say “thanks.” It’s an honest intention. But if I sneeze more than once and people continue to say, “bless you,” I mention that I’m an atheist and they could respond with “gesundheit” which means “good health.”

It doesn’t mean anything to me. I notice, but ignore it.

I say “thanks.” They mean well. While praying for me may not help, I do not think it will cause me harm.

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8 Comments

  1. Malcolm Kennedy

    New to the community. Do you have regular meetings each month? If so, where. I’m currently a member of the American Humanist Association as well as the Humanist Club in The Villages, FL.

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      • Griffin

        Hey I have been researching humanism for school and I have some questions about humanism I would like to have a talk would a seasoned humanist, so just give me an email if you feel like chatting.

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  2. Griffin

    I have been researching humanism for school and would like to have a conversation with a seasoned humanist, if you would like to chat about humanism please email me.

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    • Nathan B. Weller

      Thanks Griffin, I’m happy to talk. I’ve gone ahead and emailed you.

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  3. Gary Lusson

    Just saying “thanks” or “you too” merely emboldens–if not enables– these folks, as it reinforces their notion that EVERYONE is religious and accepts religion as a normal, healthy part of everyday life. It’s also a cop-out, perhaps from fear of confrontation or that well-known atheist’s feeling of “Oh, what’s the use?”

    Yes, an alternative-to-what-they’re-accustomed-to-hearing reply takes time and may have consequences, but it’s important. At the very least, stop, look at the person directly, and say in a calm, clear, friendly voice, “I appreciate your intention but I’m not religious (or better, “I’m an atheist”). You have a good day also.” Or something to that effect that leaves no doubt as to your intention.

    My favorite and oft-heard response to my answer is,”Well, god/the lord/Jesus bless you anyway.” To which I always respond, “And may the tooth fairy and Paul Bunyan bless you!”

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    • Derrick

      Thank you for your comments, Gary. We have many other blog posts where you could share experiences and thoughtful advice.

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